Anonymous asked: I'm not sex repulsed but I really don't want to have sex with anybody I think of it as a way to have babies or please someone else can I still be asexual?
Asexuality is not having sexual attraction. Thats it. It often goes hand in hand with not wanting sex and the like, but the only criteria is no sexual attraction. If you fit that description, then yes you are ace. If not, you’re probably not ace, and thats okay! Theres plenty of words to describe every identity, and its up to you to figure out which definitions suit your feelings the most. Best of luck!
Hi everyone~ just wanted to say that i am going to try to go through as many asks as i can over the next few days.
I’ll have limited time and internet but i really want to respond to what you all had to say~
Anonymous asked: Im kinda like the other anon. I was straight, then bi, then a lesbian, but I've been ace for about a year. If my sexuality if fluid, is it still possible for me to stay ace for the rest of my life? I'm sex repulsed and aromantic. I've always been aro but I still think that could change. Is romanticism fluid like sexuality?
Yes and yes
Anonymous asked: Hi! I am a pansexual, panromantic girl, and a budding writer. I have an idea for a book, and it involves a relationship between an asexual girl and demisexual boy. As not being any of these sexualities and not wanting to incorrectly portray them, I wanted to ask what stereotypes are typical (like what to avoid), and how would they approach the topic of sex in a relationship where one had a sexual desire for the other and it was not reciprocated? (sorry its weird wording)
Wow, that is a bit of a hard one. But thanks for asking!
Uhm, Im at a total blank right now, but when I think of something I’ll edit it in :)
Any followers please help with this!
Anonymous asked: I have been questioning my sexuality for at least six months now. At first I thought I was sexually attracted to women, then to both men and women, then to everyone, but then I though 'I find no one /sexually/ attractive, and I'm kinda scared of sex, but totally want a deep,closing, romantic relationship. Could I be ace?
Oh oh I’ve heard of this,
I dunno what it is or anything but theree was a lady who’s sexually changed basically day to day.
Sexuality is fluid. It can change.
So, it sounds like ATM you are ace, before that bi, before that whatever-sexual.
Asexuality is when you dont feel sexual attraction, so when/if you feel sexual attraction again, you arent ace until you like go back to ace.
Anonymous asked: With people I have squicks on, I want to be around them to I have more chances to talk to them and become their friends. With people I think I might have crushes on, I want to get as far away from them as possible. Maybe it's because the feeling make me uncomfortable? Maybe they're people who I actually dislike? Is it really a crush if you want to get far away from them?
Yes, I still think it is still a crush.
Some people respond to crushes by running away or even being flat out hostile (cough me cough). I think it’s more a scared factor and shyness like you dont want to talk to them, what happens if you say…..and embarss yourself. There’s lots of little factors that make you not wanna talk to them.
Anonymous asked: (I just really wanted to thank Niki for answering my question ( a while ago, but still) it really, really helped a lot and made me feel much better!!!
That makes me happy :)
And you’re very welcome <3
Anonymous asked: I really love my best friend and they are really understanding and accepting with everything and I've come out to them as genderfluid and panromantic before but when I've tried to tell them (several times) that I am asexual they kept brushing it off and saying I just haven't met the right person yet, and I shouldn't jump to labels because im probably just too young to know (even though I'm 16). But I'm sure about this part of me and I don't know what else to do to show them that I am
You kinda cant show that you’re asexual. And that’s a problem with being ace. And that’s a pretty normal response that we get, like you can be sexually attracted to ANYTHING but you can not be sexually attracted to NOTHING that goes against all the laws and rules right?
Maybe sit them down and explain that you are old enough to determine that you are genderfluid and panromantic, you are definately old enough to determine your sexuality and that you are sure that you are asexual. Maybe give them a few resources as well.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
Anonymous asked: I'm 14, and I am an asexual pan-romantic. (I've been certain since I was 12.) I have tried to explain this to my mom, but she doesn't seem to believe me. I actually got a very... Negative response from her and now I'm starting to think maybe I should just pretend to be straight. She won't listen to me no matter what I say, and I feel like maybe I'm stepping into the wrong territory and that I should back away from it.
Asexuality and coming out is a big issue many have, there is ALOT of negative response (google asexual bingo, you may fill one or both cards). What you do is completely up to do, and what you think is right. I came out, but I went back in not long after, just got sick of all of the negative responses.
But, if you go back in, and pretend to be straight, and come acorss someone from another gender you wanna date, do do it, dont ‘be’ so straight you wont date someone you like. That’s just cruel.
I’m sorry you got a bad response from your mum -hug-
Anonymous asked: Can you experience eye candy and still be asexual? Like, "Oh, they look pretty, but I still don't want to share my bed with anyone." Is it possible to think someone looks beautiful or handsome WITHOUT being sexually attracted to them?
Yep. Aesthically attractive. Some people are just so pretty and perfect <3
*nearby lesbian laughter*
*muffled asexual snickering*
*conflicted pansexual noises*
*moderately panicked bisexual muttering*
HETEROSEXUAL SCREAMING IN ANGUISH
Laughter from anyone who realises condoms are not the only form of birth control.
Louder laughter from those that remember that STDs and STIs are an actual thing that happen whether one is on the pill or not.Laughter stops as people remember that STDs and STIs are an actual thing that happen whether one is on the pill or not.
Literally everyone, regardless of orientation, mutters awkwardly and shuffles away as they remember that STDs and STIs are an actual thing that can happen to anyone who is sexually active, and not just heterosexual people.
*asexual snickering increases in volume*
Anonymous asked: I don't get crushes, I think nudity on either gender is weird, ugly, and gross, and I like the idea of falling in love with another girl. What am I?
Have a look at the terms asexual (sex replused) and aromantic.
Cant say you definately are or arent just look at them and if you have any other questions ask us.
Anonymous asked: How does one determine concrete asexuality? Sorry if this is a silly question! (just that I always tell people I'm ace, but I guess I sort of always secretly hope that someone will come along and I'll be like "that's them, that's the person" and the light bulb that's like "no, you're demi!" or "no, you're gray-A!" will go off and then what? should I know already? Or is that a "you won't know until it happens but when it happens you'll know" thing?)
I guess there is no way to determine concrete asexuality. Like the problem is we dont know what sexual attraction feels like. We dont know if we’ve felt it. Or when or how. In demisexual you feel it after some other connection, but how deep does that connection have to go. You know what I mean? But I’ll tell you what, when that someone comes along and you’re like that’s them, then you very may well be asexual still, I am.
Anonymous asked: Hi! Well, I'm not sure if you receive this question often, I just recently followed... Ahem, anyways, a huge majority of people say that since I'm a teen I can't be ace- I don't know my own body enough, haven't been "out." But everyone around me is so into sex and hand holding, other forms of intimacy and I'm just like, "That cloud looks like a turtle." So, what do I say to these people? Even if they'll never believe me, just for insurance?
Yes teenageace’s get told that they are too young all the time.
Just tell them if you’re too young to determine their sexuality, (if they are younger) obviously they are too young as well and they don’t know their body enough.
if they are older, tell them that they were able to determine their sexuality at a young age then you should be able to as well.